Tag Archives: Heather Doney

A Call for Inclusion in the Survivor Community: Sarah Henderson’s Thoughts

“A plural of narratives does not add up to empirical data. But it does add up to a plethora of narratives. As more survivors come forward and share their narrative, it will become harder and harder to reject each narrative as an anomaly. Denial of abusive homeschooling survivorship is a serious issue, and becoming elitist and selective about sharing stories contributes to the denial.”

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My Parents Were Victims of Spiritual Abuse

“I know a bit of what my parents felt because I went through this myself when I took care of kids over in Asia. I had these trouble kids. So I asked myself how I could get them from point A of total depression, despair, and self-hatred to point B, of surviving in society without hurting themselves and other people. So I did what every other parent does. I cried what the heck do I do?”

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About Those “Model Homeschoolers”…

“The reason most parents do the authoritarian parenting thing in the first place is because they believe it will result in model children and successful adults. They see children from these other homeschooling families that seem ‘perfectly well-behaved’ and who do ‘first time obedience’ and many understandably want that sort of awesomeness for themselves. What they do not understand is that this ‘model homeschooler’ or ‘model child’ image often comes at a steep price.”

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Feeling Empathy for Christian Patriarchy Parents and Leaders

“The more adults I talk to or learn from who are walkaways from the Quiverfull and Christian patriarchy stuff, or even ostensible leaders or former leaders within it, the more I see them as not abusers and power-grabbers per se, but also victims. They often had harsh upbringings filled with authoritarianism and loss or were constantly uprooted, never knowing what to expect next.”

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Homeschool to Public School

“I find the debate about whether homeschool or public school is inherently better to be the educational equivalent of arguing whether Coke or orange soda is better. It’s utter foolishness when people act like their personal preference is the only one that counts. Overall I believe that human beings are resilient and adaptable creatures, capable of learning in many different environments if given the opportunity and some quality mentoring.”

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Corporal Punishment and The End of The Red Stick: Heather Doney’s Story, Part Two

“The red stick had started out as a handle to a child-size broom and then when the broom broke 25 years ago, it became a toy (a walking stick, a bat, a pretend sword) left in the yard until my Dad picked it up off the patio one day, tapped it against his palm a few times and said, ‘This would make a real good spankin’ stick.'”

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