By Shade Ardent, HA Editorial Team ‘A woman’s place is in the home’ ‘We were created to be his helpmeet.’ ‘You will stay at home under my authority until I hand you over to your husband.’ ‘You need to be more submissive.’ ‘There’s no need for college.’ ‘Courtship not dating is what’s right for you.’ ‘Promise me your heart andRead more
Tag Archives: gender roles
“When I’m big I want to be a boy like you”
My four year old self thought I was giving my cousin a complement. However he saw otherwise; I was beaten, called “faggot”, then pushed down the stairs. That complete rejection from a family member was enough to scare me into submission for the rest of my childhood.Read more
I don’t know when I started trying to ignore everything about myself.
It must have been early in my childhood, but the further I look back, the blurrier the memories get.
I’m Alex, and I spent twenty years being raised in a radical Roman Catholic homeschool community.Read more
My name is Elliott Grace, and I am a homeschool alumni.
I am Non-Binary Trans, and this is my coming out.
This is probably one of the hardest things I’ve written up to this point.Read more
Kid me, 9 years old.
Hot summer evening in the Midwest, post-bathtime, pre-bedtime. I’m running around at home with just shorts on, and my mom freaks out that I don’t have a shirt on. I don’t understand why I can’t be like all my male friends and go shirtless, but somehow I know better than to say so.Read more
As I was growing up, appearance was very important to my mother.
You must cover certain parts of your body, you must not show certain areas of skin, you must hide particular shapes that are a part of your body, you must do your hair in an exact way, your clothing must draw the correct attention from worldly, sex-obsessed men, your eyes are the pathway to your soul and must be makeup-free, you must present your body in this way. Only this way.Read more
Fear became an instant factor in everything we did
My parents impressed on me that CPS was the Enemy and that we were to hide from them and fear being “taken away” by them.
This is a Homeschooling blog, so why talk about women in combat? It’s been a significant portion of my post-homeschooling life and gender identity, and I wanted to share a bit of that with you today.Read more
It’s being ten years old and your mother completely leaving you on your own in terms of your schoolwork. It’s having no parental expectations or guidance in terms of your education.Read more
You know those occasional news stories about mothers who ‘go crazy’ and drown all their kids in the bathtub? My mother was one of those—she just never managed to kill us properlyRead more