My Mother is the Woman Who Doesn’t Want the Right to Vote
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Edited by Wende Benner, HA Editorial Staff
I grew up listening to my mom tell me that women shouldn’t be allowed to vote.
Her attitude almost hinted at annoyance, this was a responsibility she didn’t need, she would vote the same as her husband anyway.
I was never compelled to agree that women shouldn’t vote. I was, however, obligated to vote, or not vote, as my parents did. Many families with the same ideologies as my parents saw their children as a political strategy.
These controlling patriarchs are cloning their own vote through their wives and children.
Anti-women’s vote is partially a numbers tactic. As evidenced by recent polls, women voters have the power to sway an election a great deal. If you remove every woman’s right to vote, the loss of submissive women’s votes are outweighed by restored male control.
When we talk about a woman who doesn’t want to vote, it’s important to note that this duplication of votes through obedient women is not the first choice of these families. Their thought process can be found rooted in a basic fear, fear of what they believe is inevitable personal misfortune, or “divine judgement” as they might refer to it.
Simply put, bad things will happen to everyone if women as a whole aren’t serving under men.
Many fundamentalists believe their principals for life are a cosmic cheat code for getting the things that they want. And when things go wrong anyway? Those rules are there to determine whether or not it was your fault.
Women across the country who vote their own minds are held responsible by parents like mine for keeping their chosen leaders from being elected. Subsequently, they believe these women are bringing down inescapable hardship on all of us, which they think will come from having more equality-minded leaders, among other things.
I now know that I want to vote differently from my parents, but this wasn’t always the case. Something that comes with the submissive-woman rhetoric, is a great deal of conditioning. Not only did I not have the freedom to vote for President Obama, I didn’t know that I wanted to. I suspect that this is also the case for many fundamentalist wives and adult children.
It is much easier to embrace the rules of those that house and clothe you, than to challenge them and risk abandonment.
And so my mother and many other women hold on to fighting for the loss of their rights. Maybe she doesn’t want the responsibility. Maybe she doesn’t want the option of being able to change the course of her own life and that of her children’s lives. Maybe she can’t even think about the possibility, because that would mean she had chosen to remain in a life where she had no choice.