Sorry, Michael Pearl, But These Fireworks Are Calling You Out: Lisa Joy’s Thoughts

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HA note: The author’s name has been changed to ensure anonymity. “Lisa Joy” is a pseudonym.

Disclaimer: I have been reading Libby Anne’s reviews of the Pearls’ materials on her “Love, Joy, Feminism” blog as they’re published each week. When I read Michael Pearl’s recent article, “Homeschooling: Success or Failure,” I started wondering what she would say to tear it apart. Then I realized I couldn’t wait to see if/when she’d cover it, so I started writing my version of a rebuttal! So if it sounds like I’m parroting her in some way, I’m not trying to… but I might end up doing so to some extent because I love what she has to say in her book reviews. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, or something like that!

“It is such a marvelous pleasure to observe the many young couples coming out of the homeschooling community. They are bright as spring flowers, full of hope and good cheer. Children are springing up like dandelions, without a care in the world, secure in their parents’ love.”

Dandelions… a weed that many people try to kill

Michael Pearl has a nasty habit of dehumanizing people, especially women and children. He compares them to dogs, horses, pick-up trucks (yes, really!), etc. Now we can add weeds to that list.

“There has never been a movement in America that has so consistently produced godly young people and holy marriages.”

Oh, really? Are these marriages “holy,” or are they simply trapped & trying to put on a good face? The latter is my story — married for 13 years to a man I knew was cheating on me and lying to me. But I didn’t dare leave because that wouldn’t be the “godly” thing to do. <sigh> (Don’t worry, when it finally dawned on me that my children were in danger of being molested, I worked up the courage to face all the judgment and criticism from my church and my family, and I left him.)

“These kids—they are in their 20s and 30s but to me they are kids—”

I am 36. I am not a kid. I’ve been a legal adult for 18 years, so I should be an adult twice by now!

My parents still treat me like I’m a rebellious teen-ager, including trying to correct me when I have what they consider a bad attitude, tell me where I should attend church, what I should wear, whom I may date and marry now that I’m divorced, (or as they would prefer, that I am to never marry again, except to my abusive ex!) and even punish me when I stray from their desires for my life. (And no, I’m not currently on speaking terms with them. Enough is enough! When they learn to treat me like the adult I am – twice over – then maybe we can be friends again.)

“are the most emotionally balanced, mentally positive, and hopeful human beings in the world;”

Either that, or they’re really good at faking it and putting on a happy face so that they aren’t a bad testimony. After all, if they and their lives aren’t perfect, they know that it’s their fault because they aren’t spiritual enough.

“and let me tell you something: Even at 68 years old I can see that among them are the prettiest girls ever. There is something about a genuine joyful smile and an inquisitive, positive expression that lights up a healthy female face like sun, moon, stars, and fireworks at the same time.”

Stop and really read this again. Let it sink in. This. Is. Sick. I hope all of you are holding your mouths to keep the vomit from hitting your keyboard or tablet or phone. I know Debi Pearl has her issues, but I feel sorry for her right now. I would be horrified if my 68-year-old husband publicly admitted to admiring women 1/2 or 1/3 his age. Maybe I just have a dirty mind, but for an old man to admit that a pretty face reminds him of “fireworks” is beyond gross. Sick. Sick. Sick.

Michael Pearl says in his “Created to Need a Help Meet” book that when he’s at church luncheons, he wants to be surrounded by pretty ladies! What a sick, dirty-old-man vibe I’m getting from him. <shudder> Even if you’re okay with a 68-year-old having these kinds of thoughts about a 20-year-old “girl,” (really a woman but always a “girl” to Michael Pearl!) remember that he’s married. And he just published this on the Internet and in print. His wife is presumably reading this. Just. Yuck. Nasty. Must. Stop. Thinking. About. This.

“I see young mamas and daddies producing a whole new generation of godly, wholesome kids.”

Or producing a whole new generation of abused, trapped kids who must put on a happy face or they’ll be beaten when they get home for making Mama and Daddy look bad in front of other people?

“If we can’t beat the progressives today, we will beat them tomorrow in the numbers game. While they kill their children and stuff them in a green refuse container bound for the city dump, two of our kids multiply to become eight, ten, or nineteen in about 20 years. Think about that—two million homeschoolers today, ten to sixteen million in twenty years. If you can’t out-vote them today, out-breed them for tomorrow.”

I heard this kind of thing when I was a kid. Homeschooling has been more-or-less legal in America since 1985, when my family started homeschooling. That’s awfully close to 30 years – a generation and a half. So – where are all the thousands and thousands of homeschool graduates who, like me, now have children of their own that are school-age? Oh, wait, that’s the whole reason for this article.

Because these thousands and thousands of homeschool graduates who were going to take over the world haven’t done so yet.

Also, not everyone can have 8, 10, or 19 kids. There’s infertility, serial miscarriages, dangerous pregnancies, painful/uncomfortable pregnancies, financial and practical considerations such as housing and food and clothing, “kids” who are close to 40 and haven’t married yet (thank you, courtship!), and couples who choose not to have kids even though they probably could. And – assuming 2,000,000 is an accurate number, which I kinda doubt coming from Michael Pearl – how many of those 2,000,000 are homeschooling for non-patriarchal reasons? Dad’s (or mom’s) work schedule, convenience of other pursuits (did you know that Ross Lynch of the Disney Channel & the “R5” band is homeschooled? Also the Jonas Brothers?), peanut allergies, disabilities requiring frequent hospital stays and/or constant monitoring, learning disabilities, etc. I don’t think Michael should be counting on a great army of straight (mostly) white Christian conservatives just like him rising up from the ranks of homeschooling to rescue America!

Another point – doesn’t it irk you that if you aren’t following Michael Pearl and similar patriarchal teachers, then of course you’re killing your children & throwing them in dumpsters?! There’s no middle ground. I’ve seen this over and over as I read Libby Anne’s reviews of the Pearl materials. The Pearls see people as all being in one of two extremes – their way, or the way of absolutely horrifyingly evil.

“I know there are a few highly-publicized stories from time to time of homeschooling failures. There is an online militant group of ex-homeschoolers who hate the experience and are actively trying to denigrate us; but anything that grows large will accumulate detractors and dissenters—great enemies even.”

News flash, Michael Pearl – we are the homeschool graduates that were going to take over the world!

Remember us? From your last paragraph? Sure we’re 20 and 30 years older than the generation that you say will end up out-breeding them, but we were told that we would be the ones that would be the mighty army raised up to overwhelm the enemy with our godliness!

I am curious as to which “online militant group of ex-homeschoolers” he’s referring to, because last I checked, there are quite a few of them. There’s the Homeschoolers Anonymous blog. There’s the Recovering Grace blog. There are dozens and dozens of personal blogs that address everything from page-by-page reviews of the Pearl books to personal experiences of de-programming from the cult-like environments (or actual cults!) in which we were raised.

“Satan hates goodness and will find broken people who want everything to be as broken as they are. But we are not moved by their bitterness; we have too much joy and hope to be brought down by someone already way down near the bottom.”

Good thing that you, Michael Pearl, are so godly and perfect that you can so easily ignore the pain that has brought someone “down near the bottom.” What an arrogant – okay, I’ll stop there but you finish it up with your choice of words!

“Not every homeschool experience will be a great success. Some will be total failures; others will be good but not altogether good. In some cases, out of six children a family may lose one or two to the world, but they will have two or three that are exceptional human beings. The Devil is after us. The flesh is still weak. The world has not lost its luster. So there will be casualties. We are saddened by every failure, but we are not daunted or discouraged. The large number of beautiful successes keeps us charging ahead with confidence.”

Again – I heard when I was a kid that I was in the generation that would rise up and change America – and the world – back to godliness. Now Michael is admitting that only about 1/3 or maybe 1/2 of homeschool graduates will be “exceptional human beings.” Another 1/3 to 1/6 will be lost “to the world.” I guess the other 1/3 to 1/2 is just mediocre so they don’t count for either camp? Very convenient, too, that Michael and similar leaders get to designate what is “exceptional” and what is “worldly.” What is good to Michael Pearl may be considered carnal to the Bill Gothard camp. The Doug Phillips followers have yet another definition of what is good and godly. The Amish and the Mennonites and the Independent Fundamental Bible-Believing Baptists have their own definitions. It must be so nice to be a Michael Pearl or a Bill Gothard or a Doug Phillips and get to decide what is godly and what isn’t… that would make life so much easier on me, because I would be the godly one and all of you had better do what I say or you won’t be godly like me!

“It has been our ministry to help parents raise godly children from birth to grandkids. We have addressed every conceivable subject several times from different angles, written over twenty books and thousands of articles, read your letters and answered many of them. We have heard your stories and sought to understand problem areas and the things that make for consistent success. So one more time, I will address the reasons for the few who fail.”

“The few who fail”? I guess if he repeats it often enough, he can convince his followers that the “online militant group of ex-homeschoolers” he mentioned before is in fact just a couple of hotheads. Except that he just said that approximately 1/3 of homeschooled kids go “to the world,” and 1/3 apparently just disappear. That doesn’t sound like “a few” to me. That sounds like 2/3. That’s the majority. Like, 2 out of every 3 homeschooled kids is considered a failure.

If a friend recommended a restaurant that was so delicious and so wonderful and only 2 out of every 3 people got food poisoning… do you think I’d want to eat there?

“How many times have you heard me say, “More is caught than taught,” or, “Your attitude speaks louder than your words”? I have often said, “Children are rooted in the soil of their parents,” and, “You must model what you want your children to become.””

So if Johnny or Susie ends up going bad, it’s your fault, not Michael Pearl’s. Shame on you for being so imperfect.

“It is not enough to teach morals, good character, the Constitution, Creationism, and modesty. Goodness without God is humanism at its finest.”

This is exactly one of my big complaints about the ATI curriculum. It’s a bunch of rules, but with very little to no teaching on having a relationship with Jesus. In fact, Jesus is barely mentioned. The only major teaching I can remember about Jesus was “The Commands of Christ.” Emphasis on the commands. Still no relationship. Most of the Pearl family-related books, such as “To Train Up a Child,” and the “Help Meet” books, throw a few out-of-context Bible verses at you, interpret them for you, then tell you what you need to do in order to raise kids properly, or be a good wife, or keep your wife in line. Again, there is very little emphasis on a relationship with God.

To be fair, I have not read/listened to any of Michael Pearl’s doctrinal teachings, but the family books are by far the most popular of their materials, so that’s what I’m basing my complaint on. They’re just another manual, another to-do list, of what you must do so that you and your family will be godly, as defined by Michael and Debi Pearl.

“Right living without worship is the arrogance of Cain, unacceptable for its lack of faith. Satan can tolerate us being good as long as God does not receive the praise and worship. The world can appreciate and even praise our morals (it makes for good citizenship), but they despise us giving glory to the God of creation, who is the judge of all men.

“Good kids without God are just bait for the sharks of this world. Sometimes the bait in its naïveté wants to be eaten. We can control the family and our environment so as to protect our children from the world—until they get old enough to seek it out, and then the only protection they have is that which is within. If God is not within, they are empty vessels waiting to be filled with folly and fornication. Those who fall from the highest moral standards fall further and land harder, doing more damage.”

Or – maybe those kids grow up, get a taste of the “real world” at their jobs, in their communities, or in their marriages, and realize that the big bad world wasn’t really as awful as our parents thought it was.

“I have observed that most of the failures come from families who did not raise their children in a community of believers.”

Ah, here it is again! The failures aren’t the Pearls’ fault. Nope. Definitely not. The failures aren’t Bill Gothard’s fault. Or Doug Phillips’ fault. Or patriarchy itself’s fault.

It’s because you didn’t take your kids to church.

Except there’s this little thing called “home church,” that the ultra-conservative homeschoolers and/or ultra-controlling homeschoolers like because then there’s no Sunday School, no friends, no youth group to steal the teens’ hearts away, no rock music to invite demons into their souls, no teachers or pastors to offer a different opinion… if another family or two joins your home church, then they’re carefully screened and carefully controlled to make sure that they don’t bring in any worldly influences.

“Few families are completely balanced, able to supply all the needs of their kids.”

Shock – there’s one line in this article that I actually agree with? Kinda. I disagree with the word “few,” because all families are imperfect, because all parents are imperfect, because all people are imperfect. Still, I come within 3 letters of agreeing with this statement. Don’t worry, it won’t last long.

“But in a church of like-minded saints there is balance. The church of Jesus Christ is God’s supply line of ministry to the family. If your family is not part of a Bible-believing congregation of saints, your children are being deprived of God’s method of sanctification and ministry. If there is no church or community of believers within comfortable driving distance, then move to where you can hear the preaching of the word and participate in ministry, and your kids can socialize with other godly youth.”

My parents changed churches 5 times in my growing-up years, and a 6th time since I got married. Yes, that’s 7 different churches within my first 25 years of life. If you’re going to change churches every time you disagree with a church policy (not doctrine, *policy*) or every time they play a taped accompaniment with <gasp> drums with a soloist, then that’s not a very stable environment for your kids to grow up in. Remember that because you follow Michael Pearl, and/or Bill Gothard, and/or Doug Phillips, your family is one of the spiritually superior ones, so chances are, you’re more spiritual than your pastor or fellow church members. It’s difficult for a kid or teen with that mindset to be able to fully engage in and learn from church. Been there, done that.

Also, it’s very easy for Michael Pearl to tell families to “move to where you can hear the preaching of the word.” He’s never had to do that, because he is the preacher of the word. (Whose word, I’m not 100% sure, but I suspect he’s preaching Michael Pearl’s word more than God’s Word. Again, my only exposure to the Pearl philosophy has been through their parenting books, but there’s precious little true Bible in there!) It’s not exactly easy for a family, especially a large family, to just pack up & move to a new place and find a new job for dad that will allow mom to still stay home with the dozen kids, plus how about a house that they can afford debt-free that will fit all those people?

“But when everything else is right, if the husband and wife relationship is not a thing to be envied by the children, you can be sure that you are going to lose some if not all of your children to the world. The last you will hear of them as they look back over their shoulder is, “Hypocrite.” I have heard many say, “If that is what a Christian is, I don’t want anything to do with it.””

Nope. That’s not what turned me away from my parents’ brand of Christianity.

It was actually reading the Bible for myself (gasp… a WOMAN reading the Bible FOR HERSELF?!) and realizing that most of what they taught me IS NOT IN THE BIBLE.

“You need to have a family Proverbs time.”

Conveniently enough, one of the other articles in this newsletter just so happens to be about Proverbs Time! The Pearls are very good at self-promoting their other publications, as you’ll see in a minute.

“You need to “go to church.””

Why is “go to church” in quotes in the original article? You either go to church or you don’t. He doesn’t seem to using a quotation from another source. So these quotes just don’t make sense. Weird.

“You need to involve your family in ministering to others. You need to teach morals, character, and the Bible stories; but most of all, you need to look at your children and smile with delight, and they need to see you looking at your spouse and smiling with appreciation and thanksgiving. It is the difference between success and failure.”

Anyone else notice what this is? IT’S A TO-DO LIST.

If you can check off all these things – Proverbs Time, “go to church,” minister to others, and so on… then your kids will be a success. You can beat them within an inch of their lives (or beyond, as tragically has happened several times) and they will still grow up to love you and admire you and want to be just like you and raise their kids to also be just like you.

“Read again Created to Be His Help Meet and Created to Need a Help Meet. Listen to my FREE Romans messages online, and my series Sin No More, available through the NGJ web store.”

There it is – more self-promotion. Just in case you haven’t bought the “Help Meet” books, or the “Sin No More” series, then hurry your little self over to the No Greater Joy web store and send us money, stat! At least Romans is free… but it still seems a little tacky to be promoting his own materials as the solutions to all your problems! This also reminds me of Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips, and the like. Excellent sales technique – create a problem, then conveniently offer a solution the customer can buy to solve that problem. When that doesn’t work, encourage them to buy more solutions.

This is what I think Michael is saying:

“Yes, some homeschooled kids are failures. It wasn’t my fault, and it wasn’t the system’s fault – it was their parents’ fault because they didn’t follow my checklist! Here, buy more of my stuff & listen to me preach & at least your kids will be successful!”

29 comments

  • It’s a curious thing, how we always link to them, but these leaders never link to us.

    • They can’t even *name* us, apparently! Or maybe there are just too many of us for them to name? If they listed all of the websites, blogs, & people who comprise the “online militant group of ex-homeschoolers,” then his later comment about us being “the few who fail” wouldn’t make any sense.

    • Wow! What can I say here, but “good stuff” to think about.

      Let me tell you a little of my ( our) story. Boy, can I relate to so much of this! I am a home school mom. I ( we -my husband has been involved with the teaching, also) have been home schooling our children for well over two decades. We have been in ATI, read much of the Pearl’s info as well as Doug Phillips. Please don’t hold this against us. I have more to say.

      When my husband and I chose to home educate our children we truly believed it was God’s will. We were attending a denominational church which believed they were the only right church. Pride develops in members of these kinds of churches. The church was really not doing their job to help young families raise their children. The youth group was bad news ( one of the youth group’s “ten commandments” was “Thou shalt not get into the sleeping bag of the opposite sex with the opposite sex when on a youth camp out). I am serious -this was actually written up -must have been a problem at the youth retreats. With such an example to follow, we decided to search out other options to help us raise our children. We heard about ATI and joined. At first, it seemed like a breath of fresh air. We studied the ten steps to a good marriage just to find the next year there were twelve new ones. We hadn’t even accomplished the last ten! There were so many rules to follow and it was really about appearances, after all. (Hmmm, isn’t this what the Pharisees were about, too? Just thinking out loud.) So if you couldn’t quite keep up with it all, at least look like you were! It added a lot of pressure for us as well as our children. We got pretty good at following the rules, but we became prideful and hard on our children. We also took in the writings of Michael Pearl and Doug Phillips (there was also Jonathan Lindvall, dont forget!). All of this fed us more pride more rules and more pressure to perform. Really, it was all nothing but pure legalism, man’s way to earn God’s favor and salvation. It never benefitted. It only made us mean and arrogant and unhappy.

      Thank God he intervened! We had some very difficult years of coming out of this. It has been a long road and has taken a long time to heal, but God is always and only good. The Christain walk is not ruling with an iron fist and being good by following the rules, but a relationship with Jesus. We have had to apologize to our children and repair damaged relationships. We started out really wanting to serve God and having the best for our children, but these were the groups out there at the time and we thought they would be a help.

      It is so interesting that all of these “helpful” people (Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips, Michael Pearl) are falling or have fallen. Is it because their teachings are simply that: their teachings, their forced interpretations of the Bible ( Michael Pearl makes fun of any version except the King James but then writes his own weird version under the guise of it being a “picture bible”)?

      Do we regret home schooling? Not a bit. Would we do it differently if we could go back? You know it! We love our children dearly and have been burned by following these men, but at least we learned and have repaired our relationships with our children. There it is again -relationship. Imagine that!

      • Thanks for the comment. BTW, I agree. lies run deep, but God’s truth runs deeper still. A bit of comfort the craziness of things.

  • I just finished reading your post “sorry Mr. Pearl” That was one of the best yet. I would truly love to speak with you. I have just begun researching this homeschooling movement (shame on me) My grandchildren (2) were homeschooled. I did not agree with it twelve years ago and I am even more adamently against it now.

    • Just to clarify – I’m not against homeschooling itself. Done *RIGHT,* it can be a wonderful tool to help children learn, deal with learning disabilities, have more time to be in a band or star in a Disney Channel show, etc.

      What I’m against is having people like Michael Pearl tell me what is godly and what isn’t, and then dismissing anyone who doesn’t follow his definition of “godly” as a failure. There is no compassion for ex-homeschoolers who were abused (many homeschooling parents follow “To Train Up a Child,” meaning Michael would actually *approve* of their abuse!) and or who were denied education at the high school or college levels, or any of the other complexities of real life.

      Although I still believe that homeschooling itself is fine, it’s the arrogance and self-righteousness that I’m reacting to in Michael Pearl’s article, and in his & Debi’s books and other articles that I have read.

  • He is worried about appearances. How does this family look for recruitment sake? And in the process of recruitment, he gets to make a lot of money. Focus on outward appearances, on having tons of power, and on making loads of money – hallmarks of abuse.

    • DEFINITELY! He gets fame, he gets money, he gets power… and apparently, he gets to look at beautiful young women guilt-free?!

      • Headless Unicorn Guy

        “Most cults are started so the cult leader can (1) get rich, (2) get laid, or (3) both.”
        — my old D&D Dungeonmaster, in a post-game talk session

  • Awesome post, Lisa. Thank you!

    We may not be what these “leaders” expected, but we certainly are an articulate army. 🙂

    • Very true! Even though I never received any formal training in logic, I do my best to think things through in a logical manner. You are much better at logic than I am – one of the reasons that I enjoy reading your blog!

  • What does he expect? We were trained and expected to be a force to be reckoned with. Pearl and other homeschool leaders just didn’t think they would be the ones reckoning with us.

  • I commented on his post, very respectfully; of course he didn’t approve it for publishing. These people never allow an opposing viewpoint. Still, it’s comforting to see that only one person so far has made a comment he liked. Hehehehe….

    • I’m not surprised that the Pearls wouldn’t approve negative comments. It’s all about appearances. 😦 I’ve noticed the same thing on pro-Gothard Facebook groups/pages & websites.

      It’s yet another way to make sure that their followers never hear an opposing view.

      • Thanks to the Internet, oposing viewpoints are only a few clicks away. These groups know this and are reeling.

  • The cognitive dissonance is great in this one. On the plus side, leaders like Michael Pearl, James Dobson, and Bill Gothard are getting older and more irrelevant by the day.

    • I just hope that their many devoted followers will learn to look for TRUTH. Just having the old guys die off or retire (or resign in the face of scandal!) won’t fix the problem, because younger men will come along to take their place, teaching the same things – or maybe becoming more extreme as it becomes obvious that the old guys’ teachings don’t work as promised. 😦

  • “online militant group of ex-homeschoolers”
    Yay! First we’re all apostates, now we are militant apostates. Keep the adjectives coming.
    I noticed how Pearl focuses on the ‘countenance’, like the Gothard/ATI crowd does. Some people are really good at pasting on a smile. I tried it myself as a teen just to see what I could get away with faking, and to get the adults to leave me alone.

    “Yes, that’s 7 different churches within my first 25 years of life.”
    How about 38 churches in 32 years? Yes, some were within the same denomination, and 3 were one time visits while traveling, but still…

    • I didn’t even count the churches we visited – some for months at a time – during the year-long church-search, and I sure didn’t count churches we visited while traveling! That’s just 7 churches that my parents were *members* of within the first 25 years that I was alive.

      And YES on the countenance thing! It’s ALL about putting on a smile, even if you’re dying inside. 😦

  • “These kids—they are in their 20s and 30s but to me they are kids—” I am with you I am not a child and have not been for eleven years, thank you. I have had to deal with that attitude in the church that spent in my high school years in and that was why I left it. “Militant group of ex-homeschoolers” The leaders of the past wanted us to be a army and that is what they got. They just thought we would be on their side.

    • Being treated like a child – I can’t even imagine what it’s like for one’s parents to treat one like an adult. I just can’t fathom it!

      Militant group – yep, their army didn’t turn out like they’d hoped! Thus Michael Pearl’s feeling the need to write this article to cover for the system’s failures.

      • If Michael Pearl’s own children are his “credentials” we’re in BIG trouble! If his children are the new army, run for the hills! What a bag of wind he is. He is writing to cover his own failure.

  • Headless Unicorn Guy

    “If we can’t beat the progressives today, we will beat them tomorrow in the numbers game. While they kill their children and stuff them in a green refuse container bound for the city dump, two of our kids multiply to become eight, ten, or nineteen in about 20 years. Think about that—two million homeschoolers today, ten to sixteen million in twenty years. If you can’t out-vote them today, out-breed them for tomorrow.”

    This is called “Outbreed the Heathen.”

    Islam has its Quiverfull faction, too. One Euro-Mullah in that faction put it more directly than Pearl: “We conquer the lands of the Infidel! Our wombs shall be our weapons!”

    And that’s all women are to this mindset: Wombs. Breeders of living Weapons like the Uruk-Hai spawning pits underneath Isengard.

  • Headless Unicorn Guy

    “It is not enough to teach morals, good character, the Constitution, Creationism, and modesty. Goodness without God is humanism at its finest.”

    You know the real kicker in that statement?

    HUMANISM BEGAN AS A CHRISTIAN MOVEMENT in the late Middle Ages; a response to an out-of-balance theology that made God so other-worldly and “spiritual” that humanity and reality were being obscured. By stressing the human, they were trying to restore balance.

  • Headless Unicorn Guy

    “But in a church of like-minded saints there is balance.”

    Balance is Groupthink?

  • To all of you who were schooled and feel that you were denied a normal growing experience; I suggest that you give serious thought to a class action lawsuit against all of these organizations for educational and spiritual malpractice. I realize that no amount of money can give you the childhood you have missed out on, however it just may stop these controlling, self-rightous nutcases from this madness on any more children. It’s very arrogant of anyone to assume they can homeschool in all subjects and provide their children with the necessary social skills and competition so vital for the mature student. I wish each and every one could have experienced a normal public school education. I have an idea you could have contributed so much to these students, some of whom need friends with a wholesome belief in christianity. Have a wonderful weekend.

  • Sorry, Peggy.

    That is why so many of us have chosen to home school. The public school experience is not normal and is full of horrible situations. I took a an education course in college called “Alternative Education.” The professor stated that public education was failing children miserably. He said there needed to be better ways to educate.

    Home education was this great alternative. The trouble was we needed help doing this. We were on our own and we turned to people like Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips, and Mike Pearl. Bad decision! These people have messed up, even destroyed a lot of families, with their bizarre teachings all under the guise of being biblical. But even with all this, and I am in no way minimizing the devastation these people have caused – my own family included, home education done right is a good alternative. The public system is a mess. Just last week, I met a public school teacher who asked what school district my children where in. When I told her my children were home educated, she said, “Good, you don’t want them In the public schools.” And I don’t either.

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